What If You Asked One More Question?

I’ve been thinking a lot lately about what it means to come from curiosity.

And honestly, it’s something I still have to remind myself to do. It’s easy to assume we already know why someone did something. Why they’re quiet. Why they’re frustrated. Why they haven’t responded. We fill in the blanks without meaning to. But what if instead of assuming, we asked one more question?

Seriously—just one more.

Not to be pushy. Not to dig for dirt. Just to actually understand.

I’ve seen it change everything in coaching conversations. Someone says they’re stuck, and instead of jumping in with advice, I ask, “Why do you think that is?” Or “What does stuck feel like for you right now?” And that opens up a whole new direction.

It works in relationships, too. When someone’s short or distant, it’s easy to get defensive or make it about you. But what if you asked, “Hey, is everything okay?” Or even, “Want to talk about what’s going on?”

Coming from curiosity says, “I see you. I care. I’m not here to fix this for you—but I’m here with you.”

And honestly, sometimes the person who needs that question the most… is you.

So if you’re facing something right now—something hard or frustrating—maybe take a deep breath and ask yourself one more honest question.

You might be surprised by what you find.