“You’re an idiot.”

Not exactly the morning motivation I was looking for.

Like many, I was in a stage of growth with my business. I was doing a lot of reaching out to people in an effort to make new connections, create new relationships, and generate new business.

I came across a profile of someone who had been in business themselves for a while. Based on what they were posting, I thought coaching might help them drive towards their goals. Why not send them a quick message and see if it could make sense? The answer is always no until you ask, right?

I decided to put myself out there and send him a message. Didn’t think twice about it. Next morning, kitchen table, bagel in hand. I open my messages. And….

“You’re an idiot.”

I blinked

Read it again.

Again.

And again.

Reading this felt like a punch to the gut. Maybe you’ve been there too. Where you are shocked by someone’s response to you and you read it.

Then, read it again.

And again.

And again.

Then self-doubt starts to creep in. Maybe you start asking yourself questions like,

“Am I an idiot, really?”

“Maybe I am.”

“Maybe I’m just fooling myself.”

“Why did I think I could actually help people?”

“I should just stop.”

At least that’s how I was feeling and some of the questions that were running through my mind. I felt my confidence start to drain away. My mood took a DIVE. Why bother continuing to work if I’m just an idiot that couldn’t help people anyway?

 

The Delete & Dominate Method (D and D)

I felt the weight of it. That sinking feeling in my gut. The frustration. The doubt. And then… I took a deep breath.

In and

Out

I couldn’t let this one thing derail me. I just couldn’t!!! So first, I had to shift the energy. I got up and started moving.

 

Step 1 – Interrupt the Spiral

When something crappy happens to us, you have to shake things up. You’ve heard the phrase, “Don’t take that lying down”? Same logic here.

Don’t sit and stew. Don’t stare at the words. Don’t give them space to take root.

 

While walking around, I started thinking about what I’d actually done so far. I had helped so many people. I could name them—every single one. I remembered the comments people had left on my videos. Like this one:

“My ADHD is raging right now, and I’ve been on the couch all morning. This helped me get up and get off the couch today. 💕Not sure about the focus part, but I (chaotically) got things done.”

I told myself these things over and over again.

 

Step 2 – Reclaim The Facts

Answer these:

What is one win you have had recently? Doesn’t matter how small

What’s one moment that proves you’re NOT what they said?

Say them out loud! Write them down!! RECLAIM the facts.

 

This really helped. I started to breathe a little easier. My power walking around my apartment settled down. My heart rate slowed. Then, I had to decide what to do next.

 

Step 3 – Take Your power back

Not for them. For you.

Do you need to take a short break? A quick win? A reset? Should you respond?

 

For me, I deleted the message. Not because I was avoiding it—but because it wasn’t worth my time.

This guy? Not my person. Not my audience. Not someone who defines my purpose.

And my purpose? It’s bigger than one comment from a stranger.

And so is yours.

 

Step 4 – Visualize Your Victory*

*This step is best used after the emotions have calmed.

Picture this: You’re on a talk show, sitting across from a host who’s just asked about the hardest moments in your journey. And you get to tell the story of that one hater—the one who doubted you, insulted you, wrote you off.

And then you smile.

Because now? You’ve made it. You built the business. You achieved the dream. You turned their words into fuel that pushed you forward. And instead of holding onto resentment, you get to say… “Honestly, I should thank them. They fired me up in a way nothing else could.”

Close your eyes and picture that moment.
Because it’s coming—if you keep going.

 

The Resolution

After deleting that message, I realized something:

That guy had unknowingly given me a gift– FUEL.

It pushed me to write this post. To double down on my goals. To help even MORE people.

If I had let his words get in my head, who knows where I would be today? Maybe I wouldn’t have written this post. Maybe I wouldn’t have helped the people I have. Maybe I wouldn’t have built my business.

But I didn’t let it stop me. And you don’t have to either.

Here’s what to do next:

1. Use my strategy, Delete and Dominate, immediately. No overthinking. No dwelling
2. Remember: Haters don’t punch down – They ONLY punch up. Their words say more about them than you. Ask yourself: Would I take advice from this person? No? Then why take their criticism?)
3. Turn their negativity into fuel. Let it drive you straight to your next big win.

So, to the person who called me an idiot…. thank you.

You just helped me create something impactful. And for that, I’ll give you my best wishes—while I keep dominating.

 

And so can you.